Raymond Carver

My first reaction of me reading this passage was an instant sense of interest, the subject the couples are talking about is something me and my friends discuss all the time, and to hear the same subject being brought up in the story immediately struck an interest in my mind. I feel that that is a question many people are still trying to figure out, “what is real love”. As I read and heard the story about Terri and her ex Ed story I was shocked. To hear how a man abused a woman and for that women to still feel as though she was loved by him really shocks and even scares me, because if this woman could say that even in an abusive relationship she feels that she is loved I can only imagine what about the rest of the woman that are stuck in relationships like that, and still feels as though a man loves them. Another thing that struck me was Laura’s response when asked does she feel when Terri was in her abusive relationship would she categorize that as being in love. Laura responded that she had to know Ed and really know the situation??!!! WHAT!!!!! It’s pathetic that people act so ignorantly and can’t call it as they see it. Clearly if a woman is getting abused in the relationship love had been left that type of relationship. God calls men to love our bride just as Christ loved the church, not to beat them like our child and on type of that calling it LOVE?!!?! I feel that Ed has the only sound mind and judgment in declaring that whatever Terri was in was not love, sure he acted very sarcastically to the idea and very insensitive to Terri’s feelings in that situation.